TrAuma Bonding QuiZ

Trauma Bond Assessment Quiz

Read each statement carefully and select how frequently it applies to your relationship.

1. You feel walking on eggshells is normal, constantly trying to avoid upsetting them.

2. You experience extreme highs (intense romance, love-bombing) followed by crushing lows (abuse, silence).

3. You defend or make excuses for their toxic, abusive, or manipulative behavior to others.

4. You feel unable to leave even though you logically know the relationship is destructive.

5. You have isolated yourself from friends or family to keep your partner happy or hide reality.

6. You change your core values, identity, or boundaries to fit what they demand from you.

7. You feel addicted to the relationship, experiencing physical or emotional withdrawal when separated.

8. You always feel blame for their mistakes or accept their version of reality over your own (gaslighting).

9. You hope they will change back into the person they were at the very beginning of the relationship.

10. You feel emotionally exhausted, empty, and unsure of who you are anymore.